“There is no such thing as can’t” was one of the phrases I heard frequently growing up as a child and I am grateful for it as it stuck… eventually.
I know that if I want something enough I can make it happen, I CAN do it.
I saw a beautiful example of this at home today. Our godson, who is 14, is staying the night with us. Soon after his arrival he realised that he had split open the knee of his jeans beyond the point of looking trendy or being comfortable. He told me he would sew them back together after our meal. He showed me the area that would need closing, I even offered to do it for him, he politely declined and I thought nothing more of it.
After we eat, he asked me for my sewing “stuff”, no particular requests for a specific size of needle or colour of thread, so I simply brought down my sewing basked. I’ve had the basket since I was about 6 years old and it contains cotton thread, needles, pins, elastic, safety pins and other oddments from when I used to make my own dinner gowns, the fabric scraps make me smile. I took out a small needle and a black reel of cotton.
A few minutes later, he showed me that he had threaded the needle and asked what he should do next. I noticed that he had not even cut a length of cotton from the reel prior to its threading, which also made me smile. He had threaded the loose end of cotton on the reel directly through the eye of the needle, keeping the reel attached.
At that moment, I realised that he was unable to sew, that is, he had never actually mended anything by sewing it before. So I showed him how to cut a length of thread, how to tie a knot in the thread and how to start off sewing the denim. I only sewed the first stitch and suggested he keep the stitches small.
It hadn’t even occurred to him that he couldn’t sew his jeans, not even when I had offered to do it for him. I had therefore naturally assumed it was something he had done recently rather then it being the first attempt. He was confident that he would mend his jeans.
What a great attitude and mindset to have and long may it continue! He wanted to do something and he knew he could, he would naturally find a way and he did. He only asked for help for the more technical aspects of his new project and to be pushed lightly in the right direction. After that, he was off. He accepts his sewing may not be perfect but it is good enough and he will do it again if the stitching opens.
Focus on what you want to do, ask for help, give it a go, if you fail, learn and try it again. Never think that you are incapable of doing something you want to do, even if you don’t have the skills to do it currently,
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” Theodore Roosevelt